Hello everyone,
I don’t
even know where to begin. There was no Transfer today!!.
It’s been a very long,
long day. We finally got home at about 8 pm.
This is what happened. We got
to the clinic about 20 min early in for our appointment at 12:15pm. Figured I can
get the blood test out of the way beforehand and relax for a while. Well, 15 min past appointment went by, then 30 then 45,
still nothing. The nurse came in the waiting room in to check on another patient who came in about 30 minutes after us and
was there for a FET as well and myself to see what our bladders feel like. She instructed us to slow down on the water intake
because of a delay. No biggy, happens, right!!
So 15 min after that the other
couple was called in. I am wondering why she went ahead of us. Nurse again tells us it will be at least another 15 before
consult. OK!! So by almost 2 pm we
get called in and one of the REs is greeting us and she asked me if I had to
use the bathroom. Mmmm???? But I figure transfer will still be a while of.
When I got to Dr. L.’s
office I am a bit surprised. There is not only my DH and the RE there is also the head of the embryology staff. OH, OH!! What
now??
Dr. L. didn’t know where
to start. This has never happened in their 20 years of running the clinic. I am just thinking Embryos didn’t make it,
what else can it be??
No, they made it just fine,
all FOUR of them. Ok!!?? Well up to this point they only thawed one straw (and remember I had 5 embies 3+2 straw=5). There
shouldn’t be FOUR embryos!!!!!!!!! So the delay has been caused by this!!
Everybody has been trying to figure out how this could have possibly happen, the whole clinic was going bonkres. They called
in REs that were off duty, just to figure out what happend.
There wasn’t really any
explanation, but that there was only 1 embryo inon of the other a “2 straws”.
And to find this out they would
have thaw out the others as well. Which meant they also had to thaw out the two 2 straws that were meant for 2 other women.
But it had to be done so they
could account for 9 embryos total. That’s how many were left from that “batch”. And if they find all of them we would be able to pick out the best. I felt so bad for the other two ladies
who wouldn’t be able to get these embryos now. I could have been in their position. (well I was, just didn’t know
it yet)
They send us off and told us
to be back around 4:45pm, by then they would have all the embryos thawed and counted.
When we got there the nurse
came right in the waiting room and told me to hold off on the water until I heard from Dr. L. We saw her at about 5pm and guess who was there again? The embryologist!! Well, in each of the 3 straws were 2
embryos, meaning they had one too many. One they couldn’t account for and they had no idea how it got there.
From a previous conversation
I did gather that it would have been very unlikely for any other patient’s embryo to be mixed into the batch. At the
time they were in the lab there was only one other batch of three embryos and all of them had been used.
So where did #10 come from?
Could have someone miscounted from the start? So at some point something went
wrong. Nobody knows yet, when, who or how!
So, all of the 10 perfect looking
embryos had to be destroyed.
And what are we suppose to
do?? We were able to take 2 more profiles home with us and look them over and if we like them we could still go ahead and
do a transfer tomorrow afternoon. But Steve and I just finished going over them and we both agree that they are not for us.
(Too many serious health issues from both of the fathers and their families).
Looks like I will have to call
in the am and talk to the nurse and Dr and tell them we don’t like the choices. And to top it all off the Nurse in charge
of the Donor program will be going on maternity leave very soon. So we would have to wait until she gets back. And even if
by some miracle we could find some suitable donor before DH starts the Fire Academy the end of October I would have to do
it all on my own. He wouldn’t available for any appointments or shots and not the transfer to drive me. He is not allowed
to take off any time!! This could take us all the way into March before we could start again.
I just don’t know what
to think anymore. My head is pounding and now I am starting to cry. This is just to f…….. much!!